How to discipline your child to have Good Manners

We want our children to learn from their mistakes and not repeat them. So the natural thought is to send them to the time out corner or up to their room to think about what they’ve done. Except they don’t. And they’re going to keep doing the same behaviors despite the punishment. So how do you know how to discipline your child?

The Do-Over.

Everybody deserves a second chance, right? If your child has shown a lack of respect in some way, give them the option of a do-over. Send them out of the room, and have them start all over again. In most cases, the second time around will be much more appropriate.

Let them win.

Every single issue does not need to be a battle. If you are constantly at odds with your child, resentment can breed, and ears can eventually tune out. Sometimes, it’s best to let your child win. For example, your child might not dress for school exactly how you would like. They are within a standard of decency, but not quite your taste. Yet, they are making excellent grades. If your suggestions on how they look are met with resistance, it may be OK to let it go. Your child will appreciate having some authority over their own life, and learn how to give and take. Pick your battles.

Zip it.

Children have a knack for saying all types of off-the-wall things. Sometimes they go too far, and feelings might get hurt. Sometimes, it’s just a lot of noise. Speaking can cause a variety of troubles that requires discipline. Losing the privilege to talk for a specific time is a great tool to curb these situations

Take a breather.

Every parent’s best friend is the breather. If your child screams at you, screaming back will only worsen the matter. Send him to his room and create a cooling off period. Just make sure he doesn’t take his iPod or cell phone! Then approach him when he has calmed down and talk through the matter.

Use the rod rarely.

Spare the rod, spoil the child. We all know this ancient wisdom, but it must be used with extreme caution. Many studies have shown that using violence, even in a mild form, only creates fear and may do nothing to better a child. It can be tough at times but always keep your composure. If need be, walk away.

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